Alignment and disappointment
Living and aligned life is defined as grounded to our values and connected to our higher selves. In other words, being humble as we navigate the purpose of our lives and gaining insights into situations and ourselves through journaling and other emotional, psychological and spiritual practices.
Disappointment, by definition, is sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. Within this definition lies the opportunity to create a more aligned way of dealing with disappointment: hopes and expectations. Hope is a feeling or a desire for certain things to happen, more often than not, the way we want them to happen. The expression of expectation is even more intense, the firm belief that something will happen.
By dissecting the feelings and circumstances surrounding the disappointment, we can bring ourselves into alignment again. Sometimes when we have very intense emotions, it can become overwhelming, and it's more difficult to really get to the core of why we feel a certain way. Lots of factors can influence how we think about something, either from our childhood, previous experiences, fears and perceptions. Journaling is about taking it one step, one entry at a time to release that which no longer serves us so that we can genuinely live fulfilled lives.
Describe the incident that brought on feelings of disappointment in as little or as much detail as you wish.
What did you wish to happen that would not have resulted in disappointment?
What factors contributed to your feeling of disappointment?
What was the outcome you were expecting?
How does the outcome you wanted correspond to the disappointing event?
Now that the disappointment is out on paper read your answers aloud to yourself. Acknowledge the disappointment.
On the second page of your journal, continue with the following prompts:
Alignment brings the energy back to myself. I allow myself to feel the disappointment and let it go.
What resources do I have available to get to the same goal I had if the disappointing event didn't happen?
What other results originated because what I hoped for, or expected didn't happen?
Are you able to detach from the outcome?
Will the situation repeat itself in future?
Life happens, disappointment happens and how we react in those moments can either throw us off alignment or nudge us back to our inner power. As always, working through emotions rather than around them is part of an aligned life. If, at any point, you feel that the events are too intense or that you're not able to manage your feelings alone, reach out to a support group or professional.
Keep journaling, keep growing.